Sunday, October 19, 2014

India






We are so blessed and excited to announce that we have been paired with a country! INDIA!

I think I have written about this earlier, but we are using Dillon International and were a part of their Open Options program. While we had some leanings, we just did not know for sure where God wanted us to adopt. We had a hard time saying that one place's needs overshadowed another. This is not to degrade anyone else, only to say that we did not have a clear vision for which country we should choose. We were interested in India which is what brought us to Dillon, but when we saw their Open Options program we knew they were perfect for us! This program allowed us to fill out our application and even our home study application without knowing our country yet. Then, the agency made recommendations to us based on our age preferences, the ages of our children, the special needs we are able to take on, and such. India was the best fit, hands down!

So many things led us to believe that India was the perfect fit for us and the agency just confirmed it. India is prevalent in our lives. We love the culture, history, and food of India so we are excited to incorporate even more of it into our family. We want our little one to have some of their birth country in their home! I have dreamt of a girl from India and her struggles. I have many friends working in India. It has just infiltrated our lives with India and created a special place for this amazing country in our hearts. It seems so perfect, then, that God saw fit to give us a little one from India. Every good and every perfect gift comes from above, coming down from the Father of lights with who there is no variation or shadow due to change. Amen. We still do not know the age, gender, or special needs of our child, but it feels so amazing to see one step forward in God's plan.

Saturday, October 11, 2014

10 Months

Happy 10 Months, Buddy!


Fun facts for month ten:
Weight: 16+lbs
Height: 27+ inches
Eating: Every 4-5hrs during the day (although some days he is only doing twice a day)
Sleeping: 2 naps per day, all night
Diaper: Size 3 diapers
Clothing: 6-12 months, 9 months

What's new for month ten:
  • He is climbing so much and on everything, nothing is safe haha! I love it (but for real, I love it)
  • Pulling up all the time on everything (see above)
  • He wants to walk so badly
  • He is becoming happier all the time
  • He responds much more often to his name
  • He is finally trying to turn pages in books and will occasionally sit to read an entire book (small miracles, y'all)
  • He has been sick a few times this last month
  • He loves to pull out all the toys and books, then explore the whole room of mess he has created
  • He loves to look out the window
  • He is letting Cal hold him without crying and even reaching for Cal on purpose! (we say that Cal has gone from "peasant" to "not mom" - comment if you catch the reference)
  • He can crawl a little bit now without reverting to his crawl/swim
  • His favorite toy is this rolling phone with a pull string that sings songs
  • He LOVES solid food - he eats for maybe an hour at every meal because he LOVES food
  • He is saying MAMA when he wants me, "mmmmm" and bangs the table for more food, shakes his head for "no", and says "dyadya...aaahdadada" but we cannot tell if he means the last one or not
  • He loves people! People, people, people! He does not like to be alone.
  • RB and him have been sharing a room for a couple months now and I think he really loves it. They are getting along so well most of the time! 
  • He is babbling a lot of different consonants
  • He loves to bang things together and on other things
  • He is so grabby! I sort of, not really, want to shave my head.
  • He is a talker! He has started doing this funny growling sound
  • He loves being outside!!
  • We recently found out our little man is anemic so he is taking a vitamin supplement - we are praying this goes away quickly






Wednesday, October 8, 2014

Beautiful and Difficult


This is the face of waiting for me. I mean, I really do this. When I am waiting on someone to call me, I anxiously hold my phone up to my face. I don't know why. So I guess this might be my adoption face off and on for a while. It's kind of crazy how much waiting there is in all this, but it's also kind of crazy how much beauty there is in all this.

A recent acquaintance and I were just talking about the juxtaposition of beauty and difficulty in adoption. I'm not that far along, but I already feel the heartbreak of this birth mom having to give up her child. I feel the pain in knowing my child will have health and emotional problems. I feel the agony of knowing they will grieve the loss of their home country. I tire of the task of fundraising already and we are not even a quarter of the way there. I pray tears of desperation to God in this pain.

But there is also Joy! So much beauty and joy! I have seen God's comfort and love in my heart so tangibly already. I have watched The Body of Christ begin to stand up around in prayer and support. I am beyond excited to add another culture's food, traditions, and language to our family! I have felt so much excitement in meeting other adopting and fostering mommy's. It's incredible the wealth of knowledge and wisdom there is in these women. It's beauty how we come together and direct each other to Christ in the midst of (what feels like) crisis.

It's so difficult, but it's beautiful. So Beautiful.

Wednesday, September 24, 2014

Ups and Downs




It has been an interesting week with lots of ups and downs. Two weeks is probably more appropriate. Our little man had a set back in growth and we discovered that he is anemic. We really kept it to ourselves for a while because, honestly, I have a hard time talking about it. Updating a large group of people on something that makes you feel a bit like a failure is just difficult. But, I got the good news this week that he has already gained a pound back in the two weeks since his last appointment. So he just had a little dip and it really should not be a big deal long term. Praise the Lord.

Then, great news, we met our t-shirt goal! We have been selling t-shirts to help spread the word and raise funds for our adoption. We were hoping to sell 75 shirts and we sold exactly 76 shirts! Only the Lord could have done it. We had several people order shirts that we don't even know and some just support us on top of that. I have been overwhelmed by how the Lord has used His people for His glory!

Then, we found out that our adoption application was lost in the mail. I was so upset and deeply frustrated. But I know that God has purpose in it. We are filling it out again and I have just been so blessed by how God is showing me Himself in the little things. He is SO good. I'm not saying that it is not difficult, or frustrating, or hard on my emotions. It is. But I know that God has a plan even in this. I don't know what the plan is, but I know it exists. I'm confident. I am prayerful. And I am further reminded that this process will always have its ups and downs.


Thursday, September 11, 2014

9 Months

Happy 9 Months, Little Man!

I thought his picture should include his favorite thing...a spoon. He LOVES food.

Fun facts for month nine:
Weight: 16lbs
Height: 27 inches
Eating: Every 4-5hrs during the day (but he eats fooorever because he likes to eat so much)
Sleeping: 2 naps per day
Diaper: Size 3 diapers
Clothing: 6-12 months, 9 months

What's new for month nine:
  • He LOVES solid food - he eats for maybe an hour at every meal because he LOVES food
  • He is saying MAMA when he wants me, "mmmmm" and bangs the table for more food, shakes his head for "no", and says "dyadya...aaahdadada" but we cannot tell if he means the last one or not
  • He loves people! People, people, people! He does not like to be alone.
  • RB and him have been sharing a room for a couple months now and I think he really loves it. They are getting along so well most of the time! 
  • He is babbling a lot of different consonants
  • He is getting better at playing without being in my lap, exploring 
  • He loves to bang things together and on other things
  • He is a pulling up machine!
  • He is getting closer to a genuine crawl. He can get around in his normal way, but he is trying to do it differently to be more efficient.
  • He is much better at napping now, praise the Lord. 
  • He occasionally wakes up at night, just for a minute
  • He is so grabby! I sort of, not really, want to shave my head.
  • He is a talker! He has started doing this funny growling sound
  • He loves to follow RB around with his eyes, he really obviously loves her
  • He is starting to like reading more! 
  • He talks to people and objects
  • His favorite toy is any type of ball!
  • He loves being outside!!
  • We recently found out our little man is anemic so he is taking a vitamin supplement - we are praying this goes away quickly

He loves spending time outside!
Mom! Hand over the blueberries!

Exploring!

He wants to eat his letter


Belly!

Cuddling up

"Hold You!"

This is what he thought of the water wall

He liked it better from the comfort of my arms (water wall)

Selfies and silly faces


He just now decided that baths are awesome



FOOD!


Behind the scenes of our photo shoot

Friday, September 5, 2014

Fundraising

Fundraising y'all





So, fundraising is difficult for me. It's not that I don't have cool stuff to sell or I'm not doing other things to raise this money. It's not that. It's that we want to bring this child home as fast as humanly possible and we cannot do that without raising some funds. I want you to know that my husband is working and we save part of that paycheck. I am working part-time and all of that money goes to adoption. Each cake/cupcakes/pastries/etc I sell goes toward our adoption. And y'all these t-shirts are for our adoption too. 

We are going to do auctions, we are going to sell other things, but these t-shirts are so cute! Not only do they help us fund our adoption, but they get the word out. They help other people, hopefully, get excited about adoption as well. They help others see how God is working through adoption because He first adopted us! 

Our goal is to sell 75 shirts and we have sold 50. We are so close! Here's how it works (people have been asking): We are pre-selling the shirts which means you give us the cost and your size of shirt in advance. Then, once we have sold all 75 shirts, we will put in the order and you get your shirt! Please help us out! Please.

Friday, August 22, 2014

Blueberries

The Day Blueberries Saved My Life





Today is the day that blueberries saved my life. Seriously people. For the last...month (or more, crying makes time a weird thing)...my little man has not been himself. He started out as a vibrant, happy, and loving little guy. You could not make this guy sad. As long as he was well fed and well slept, he was all smiles. Then some time between six and seven months, he lost his cool. He could not eat many solids but he was nursing enough that I did not think the solids issue was a big deal. Though he started sleeping poorly. He dropped his first nap altogether and slowly worked his way down on the second nap to thirty minutes only. It was awful. 

Then he started eating more solids 

(can I just say that all put together like this it is going to sound like a "duh" when I get there, but when you're barely surviving amidst the no sleep and not getting to eat and being sick yourself part of the time, it's not that clear) So he started eating more solids and went to a 1hr nap in the morning and a 1hr nap in the afternoon. Not enough, but praise God. He was still so clearly tired (TIRED) that I didn't know what to do. He wouldn't sleep but he was just a crabby mess. I changed him, I nursed him, I tried to get him to sleep...crying. So much crying. He wouldn't play and he would only be happy if I walked him around the house, bouncing him up and down in my arms. (Can I say that trying to do this while extremely nauseated is a TERRIBLE option) I say happy in the loosest terms. I should say "not crying". 

Lately he has gotten way better at eating solids

For the past three days, not only has been eating solids really well, but he has been willing to eat a lot more foods. So he has started taking a 2-3hr morning nap shortly after breakfast. Full tummy, right? So today he woke up early from his afternoon nap (which is the new normal) and I nursed him. When he was in the middle of nursing, he stopped to look up at me and gave me the biggest smile. Looking just like his old self. Loved that. Then, immediately after he was done he sat up to play and, shortly after, started crying again. But this time since it was so close to when he nursed (it isn't normally - usually he is pacified for a good bit after he nurses) that I thought maybe he was still hungry. 

So I fed him some blueberries

Oh.my.goodness. If I had just figured it out earlier!! Well, when he would not eat solids I suppose that we were at an impasse. But now that he is so much better, we have found a solution. Not only was he happy, he laughed! He laughed! We played happily together and he laughed! Then...you'll never believe it. He went down for another nap. A nap! I am blogging because he is sleeping! Praise the Lord!

Blueberries!